I am happy to announce that I have a 6 pack publicly. I am, however, saddened to say that it is not enough.
For years, I was pursuing the idea that if I get a 6 pack, I will be complete, meaning that I will respect fellow men and desired women’s interests. In my mind, I always imagined a time when I would be walking down a road, and girls would stare at me and event approach me saying, “oh my, you are so handsome” and maybe even “you are so handsome I want to have your babies.”
In reality, after years of exercising and dieting, I am getting a bit better social interactions, and even unexpectedly, I feel healthier. Still, I am no way near the social superstar that I imagined I would be due to getting a 6 pack.
The old voice that told me to get a 6 pack is now replaced with a new one saying to get an 8 pack and get more definition and that this new solution will get me any women in the world. But this is a ridiculous voice. The same voice is also telling me to a better car, better cloth, a better house, more money, to go to all sorts of things which cannot be measured or quantified, some of which are even contradicting:
– Work vs. relax
– Eat dull healthy food vs. eating delicious unhealthy food
– Meeting people I know vs. people I don’t know
The more I think about this, the less sense it starts to make. I already have the 6 pack, cool cloth, and many of the latest technological gadgets, which I was told would bring me ultimate satisfaction, but they are never enough.
On the other side, I see people who don’t have these things I think I need and get everything that I want. I see girls in relationships with guys who don’t have the 6 pack or people who have no money, and yet they are happier than people who have money.
It all brings me to a realization is that most things that I think I need, I don’t need, and while getting them will bring me some satisfaction, the time, money, and energy I will spend on them will not give me the results I desire. Indeed if I spent less time trying to get these superficial things, I could spend it on more internal qualities like being a confident and interesting human being, which were much more direct and efficient in getting what I am looking for.
This is to say that we all have things in our lives, like 6 pack, that we think we need to feel complete, but we want them for all the wrong reasons. The work we did until now was useful and that there are always more things we can do to get. Still, we should also realize that what we have right now is already enough (this is “we have enough”) and consequently that “we are enough” to get whatever I want in life and therefore we can be infinitely happy right now, with or without the 6 packs.