Trouble in Paradise: When All Happiness & Pain are Relative

Trouble in Paradise

Today, I woke up feeling like there is trouble in paradise. Everything starts with something small. I see someone one liking my hobby blog Zero To Do Hero (play of words Zero to Hero, with added To Do, like?) and after checking their blog I find that this person is also a photographer blogger with a low tech wordpress blog but A LOT of engagement. 

This feeds into my insecurity of having to work hard to get anything I want from life, thinking that some people get what they want handed to them on a silver plat. 

However, this insecurity quickly disappears, replaced by a realization that all work is hard and we are constantly working towards something new. This means that all work creates feelings of doubt and insecurity.

Moreover, while we are focused on everything new we want to achieve, we often forget about everything we already have. We start to take it for granted, forgetting to be grateful, thinking that there is only trouble in paradise. 

At around this moment, I was contacted by my client, a woman, a high level professional, who is financially settled for life. However, she complained to me saying how unfair her life seems to be. It is like a “constant uphill battle” – she said. She constantly has to deal with gender discrimination at work, having to work twice as hard for everything she wants compared to her male counterparts. 

And this is virtually the same story for everyone else who thinks how bad, unfair, and difficult their lives are, often chasing to forget about everyone else’s problems, screaming: “Look at me, look how horrible my life is, and all my suffering! Me, me, me!” We forget that everyone is suffering and all suffering is relative

We should revisit the gratitude exercise, saying “thank you for everything we already have in our lives,” remembering that it is all trouble in paradise and we already have a pretty good life. Everything else is a bonus.

Coming back to this blogger who ruffled my feathers and made me write a philosophical work of art simply because he likes one of my posts, I realized that I should take a closer look at what he is doing to create this success, and copy his best practices. After all, he was engaging with my blog and focusing on creating his community, which is something I can do even better.

In the end, I reframed my negative thinking into a positive one, proving once again for myself that most suffering is self created and there is always an option to be happy.

Have a nice day!

Roman Russo: Author of Optimal Happiness

Roman Russo: Author of Optimal Happiness

Roman Russo wasn't always happy and struggled with his own negative emotions, anxieties, and depression, until one day he pledged to resolve this part of life, whatever it took. The journey took 6 years, but it was worth it. Today, Roman considers himself to be one of the happiest people alive, part of the 1% of the happiest elite, and he now teaches others a working and universal happiness formula to reach a similar goal. He offers his best advice on Optimal Happiness social media, newsletter, blog, and books, and teaches a complete and unconditional happiness formula in his online courses.

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“The problem is that of optimization,” states Roman Russo, author of Optimal Happiness: The Fastest & Surest Way To Reach Your Happiest Potential. There is plenty of advice on how to be happier or less sad, but no one is speaking about how to become the happiest we can be. And this is the difference that makes all the difference. By not looking at our maximum potential for happiness, we fall short of achieving it. After all, we all have hundreds of ideas on how to be happier or less sad, but most people still feel like they are not living their best lives. As such, Optimal Happiness explores the question of how to be the happiest we can be, regardless of who we are, where we are from, and what our life circumstances are. It proposes a complete and unconditional formula for happiness and explains how you too can become happy today and forever, inviting you to join the 1% happiness elite and become one of the happiest people alive.

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