Some people believe that they don’t deserve to be happy, but this isn’t true. Happiness is immoral. You can’t deserve, win, or earn happiness. It doesn’t require us to:
- Be someone especial,
- Have certain attributes (age, gender, income, etc), and/or
- Never have committed certain mistakes in the past.
Instead, we can be happy regardless of:
- Who we are,
- Where we are from, and
- What are our life circumstances
Certainly, our past does not (should not) define whether we can be happy.
What I’m trying to say is that you can, you should, and certainly you deserve to be happy, and by the end of this article, I will show you how you can do exactly that.
Why You May Believe That You Don’t Deserve to be Happy
If you think “I don’t deserve to be happy,” know that you aren’t the only one who thinks this way. In fact, why do you think I wrote this article using these exact words?
The real reason for why you may think “I don’t deserve to be happy” is because society told us that only certain people deserve happiness, while others don’t deserve it.
For example, the media repeatedly is telling us that happiness is around the corner, and in order for us to be happy we need to buy certain products, their products. However, did you ever notice that no matter how much we spend on “trying to buy happiness” we never quite seem to have enough to be happy?
Maybe it has something to do with the media telling us that we need to be rich, powerful, young, pretty, smart, and special in countless other ways, which is impossible and even if it is possible, it is very hard to hold on to in a sustainable way.
And the final message we hear from the media is that if you aren’t able to be all that and more, then this is why you are unhappy, it is your own fault, and you don’t deserve to be happy.
How I Didn’t Deserve to Be Happy, But Now I Deserve It
Personally, I committed my own share of mistakes, and yes I kicked myself over them on multiple occasions. However, ultimately I realized that my mistakes aren’t who I am. If anything else, these mistakes helped me to become a better person.
Yes, in an ideal world I shouldn’t have committed these mistakes. Yet, they showed me where I was weak and where I needed to take control of my life. In a way, I can’t take back my past, so I am continuously atoning for my mistakes the best way I know how, while at the same time, I’m still living my best life. I am happy.
Don’t get me wrong, I’m not delusional, perfect, or otherwise a saint. I know:
- I am imperfect,
- You are also imperfect, and
- So is everyone else.
Again, we don’t need to be perfect to be happy.
Happiness today and forever is possible, because happiness is an emotion we feel, which comes from our mind, and we feel in your body. Certainly, it is something you can learn, almost like a new program you can install inside your mind.
It is not something circumstantial and it isn’t something you can win or earn. You can, however, learn how to be happy, today and forever, regardless of:
- Who you are,
- Where you are from, and
- What are your life circumstances
I know this because I already helped hundreds of people to achieve what I call Optimal Happiness. I learned to be optimally happy and you can learn how to be happy, too.
Lesson 1: Forgive Yourself
So here is the first lesson in stopping to believe that “I don’t deserve to be happy” and it is to forgive yourself. We need to do so because:
- the past is gone,
- the present is now, and
- the future is still to come
And there is absolutely no need to hold on to something that is making our lives worse off.
After all, we aren’t losing a part of ourselves or losing some valuable life lesson once we forgive ourselves. If anything, we become a more productive human being and we aren’t slowed down by ongoing sources of negativity that prevent us from making the next necessary steps in the right direction.
In this regards, Brian Tracy, personal development coach who was famous in the 80s, tells that we should forgive 3 types of people:
- Our parents
- Ourself
- Everyone else
We need to forgive our parents, because they were not perfect, as much as you and I, we aren’t perfect, so how can we expect anything more from them?
We need to forgive ourselves, because, for many reasons, the world is a messed up place, and we are just in the middle of this mess trying to make the best out of it.
Lastly, we need to forgive everyone else because ultimately everyone else is just like us, trying to make the best out of their own situation, and there is no other way to heal besides stopping to blame others, forgive them, and start taking responsibility for our own happiness.
How To Be Happy?
There are many more lessons you can learn to go from “I don’t deserve to be happy,” to actually being happy. Trust me, you can be happy and you can be happy today and even forever. I know this because I specialize in teaching people this skill on a daily basis.
And even if the ultimate and unconditional happiness isn’t for you, you already made a few steps in the right direction. Today you learned that:
- Happiness is immoral – it has nothing to do with who you are, where you are from, what your life circumstances;
- Your unhappiness isn’t your fault;
- You saw my example of how I thought “I don’t deserve to be happy” and now I consider myself one of the happiest people alive;
- You forgave yourself and others.
Ultimately, if you want to continue with this positive transformation, you can contact us and we will do the rest. We will help you to transform your life, making it into a wonderful adventure. The only thing you need to say is “yes” to happiness.
