How Irrational Fear Of Death Prevents Us From Being Happy

It is said that back in the day, Happiness was a luxury rather than a necessity, as it is today. People used to be happy only occasionally, such as when there was a big celebration in town. The rest of the time, they were worrying and thinking about how not to die.

It was just so easy to die, too. Something as little as a cut, a mosquito bite, food poisoning, or childbirth could kill a person. The world was just too random, complex, and at times just magical to make sense of it. It was 100% deadly, also. People did not live in relative luxury as we do today.

Today, no one is expected to die of hunger, a disease, or to be eaten by a wild animal, at least in the western world. We have technologies that can save human lives and prolong them for years to come if need be. Hell, we can live to our full human potential and more if we would want to. We even have it so good that our luxuries are becoming our problems. Obesity is at its all times high. Plastic is in our oceans, and people die in millions from different drugs overdose.

Progress without evolution

And while our society has evolved, our bodies and brains have not. Technology is said to double every 18 months, while our bodies take millions of years to develop. Irrationally, some of the fears that we had back in the day still hunt for in the modern world. For example, we have a brain part called the amygdala, which stores all the bad memories to protect us from reliving the negative experiences, aka dying. It makes us afraid of riding a bicycle after we felt from it when we were 5 years old or a dog if one scared us when we were 2 years old. It is responsible for many of our modern fears, worries, and anxiety, which does not apply to modern-day life. It makes us look for a saber tooth tiger everywhere we go, so to say.

This made me think of a fun game that I play with myself constantly. Whenever I am going through some hardship, I say to myself: “don’t die, don’t die, don’t die.” This is what my brain says anyway, while in reality, I might have just forgotten my wallet at home. Of course, saying this sounds ridiculous, which is precisely the point, as, on the positive side, it removes the negative energy from any adverse experience I might be going through.


And while we have this inbuilt fear of death, we are also demanding to be happy all the time. Yes, something that started as preference has become a full-blown demand for most of the people. And if we are not satisfied, we are considering that something is wrong with us, society, and we question our whole existence because of it. Hell, some people even commit suicide because they are not happy. How crazy is that?

We often forget that the world is not built to make us happy. We forget that the world can be rather deadly, unpredictable, and, yes, magical. Let’s not dilute ourselves, thinking that we should be happy all the time and that the world owes us anything. Oppositely, let us not be afraid of our shadows and live it up a bit, since most back-old fears are no longer real.

Roman Russo: Author of Optimal Happiness

Roman Russo: Author of Optimal Happiness

Roman Russo wasn't always happy and struggled with his own negative emotions, anxieties, and depression, until one day he pledged to resolve this part of life, whatever it took. The journey took 6 years, but it was worth it. Today, Roman considers himself to be one of the happiest people alive, part of the 1% of the happiest elite, and he now teaches others a working and universal happiness formula to reach a similar goal. He offers his best advice on Optimal Happiness social media, newsletter, blog, and books, and teaches a complete and unconditional happiness formula in his online courses.

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“The problem is that of optimization,” states Roman Russo, author of Optimal Happiness: The Fastest & Surest Way To Reach Your Happiest Potential. There is plenty of advice on how to be happier or less sad, but no one is speaking about how to become the happiest we can be. And this is the difference that makes all the difference. By not looking at our maximum potential for happiness, we fall short of achieving it. After all, we all have hundreds of ideas on how to be happier or less sad, but most people still feel like they are not living their best lives. As such, Optimal Happiness explores the question of how to be the happiest we can be, regardless of who we are, where we are from, and what our life circumstances are. It proposes a complete and unconditional formula for happiness and explains how you too can become happy today and forever, inviting you to join the 1% happiness elite and become one of the happiest people alive.

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