Today, I woke up and thought “Wow, I feel rather tired and maybe even sick.” Then, I realized what I was doing and I screamed: “stop it!”
Why? Because by thinking these words I was priming myself to become tired and sick. After all, 8 hours ago I felt rather energetic and happy, but now suddenly everything changed?
No, I just felt a temporary drop in energy, which is quite normal, but I associated it with these negative feelings. I gave a negative label to my low energetic state and it almost became a self-fulfilling prophecy.
The Secret of Happiness
I mean, maybe I was getting sick, but how could I be certain of that? Better yet, how could I be certain that it was not just all in my head? Sure, it is possible that I was getting sick, but this is not an idea I was willing to entertain, not even for a second.
This is because mind and body are largely interconnected and they influence each other continuously. So while my body can get sick and it will affect my mind, but my mind can also get “sick” (with negative ideas mostly) and it will affect my body.
I believe that as a society we still don’t understand this aspect of our minds very well and we let our emotional state run wild. Yet, many famous books are written about this principle, books like Awaken The Giant Within by Anthony Robbins, Psycho-Cybernetic by Maxwell Maltz, Anatomy of an Illness by Norman Cousins, or even The Secret by Rhonda Byrne, and of course many others.
Yet, principles written in these books seem to complex, fictional, and even comical by today’s standards (while I hope they will become self-evident in the future). Still, the message is usually consistent. The message is:
Focus on the positives of whatever you want to achieve, even if they don’t seem to be realistic and possible, and eventually you will get whatever you want.
Law of Attraction
First of all, we need to have a positive state of mind and to be almost delusional about the fact that we will get what we want. There should be no doubts in our mind that we want what. For example, if we want to become millionaires or billionaires, we cannot have a single negative connotation in regards to money. We can’t, for example, say that working for money is hard and we hate taxes.
Indeed, most people have contradictory desires about different aspects of their lives and that they wonder why they procrastinate, self-sabotage their own efforts, and ultimately they are unable to get whatever they want. If they really had no choice but to succeed, they would find a way. As a new age self-help motivational speech goes:
“Gun to your head. Now find a way or I will pull a trigger.”
And it really does work! The results of this delusional self-conviction are visible in many incredible stories. For example, people are given placebo pills (essential pills without any medical or otherwise characteristics what so ever), but they fully believe it is real medicine, and miraculously they recover from all sorts of conditions and disease.
Or people are told that they are given anesthesia, that they are operated upon, and they claim to fill no pain, while in reality, they were not given any anesthetics. Or even a hypnotist can convince a person that they cannot lift their hand and no matter how strong a person is, they won’t be able to lift that hand.
Self Fulfilling Secret Of Happiness
So my question becomes: What do you want to achieve? And are you a happy or otherwise person? In my experience, happy people seemingly magically get whatever they want from life without really having to work for it. Why? Because they are in alignment with what they want to achieve and they use all these powerful techniques written about in all these about mentioned inspirational books. It is just a virtuous circle.
The more they achieve, the more they think they can achieve, the more they achieve. And even if they don’t achieve it, they are delusional confident that success is around the corner, which makes them push forward, until they get what they want. It is a self-fulfilling prophecy.
Oppositely, negative people are stuck in negative circles of destruction. They rarely get what they want and even when they get it they don’t appreciate it. They are not even motivated to get what they want because why would they? They are expecting to fail after all, so why should they even try?
Law of Attraction: Positivity & Happiness
Lastly, in my personal life, I often complimented on knowing many different languages and in my ability to pick up a new language rather quickly. Specifically, I speak 8 languages on a good or fluent levels. Whenever someone asks me how I learned all these languages I always say that I was open to learning them.
Then, I compare learning a language to mathematics. Simply said, if there are two students who have the same level of mathematical knowledge, but one thinks to be good math, while others believed to be bad at it, and they are presented with an equation they don’t immediately know an answer to, who is more likely to succeed?
Of course, it is a person who thinks themselves to be good in math. They will insist more in finding a solution and consequently they will learn more in their attempt, while a person who thinks to be bad in math might not even try to solve it or give up earlier in their attempt. They will learn less from this attempt and next time a person who likes math will have even further advantage on the other person.