Can You Be Even Happier? Happiness Advice For Happy People

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From time to time, I meet people who claim to already be happy but they are still curious to learn what, if anything, Optimal Happiness can offer them. To these people, I say:

1. You Are Happy Today, But What About Tomorrow?

In other words, is your happiness guaranteed and bulletproof? After all, some of the happiest people alive are happy regardless of their circumstances. This means that our lives can change dramatically for better or worse overnight, so ideally we need to be ready for whatever may come. In practice, we want to learn how to be happy regardless of who we are, where we are from, and what our life circumstances are. 

In response to this point, my discussion partners often admit that they don’t feel 100% secure about tomorrow and are unsure about what they would need to do to maintain their high level of happiness if their circumstances were to change. So yes, they are happy right now because things are going their way, but what about tomorrow?

2. Feeling And Thinking “Happy” Are Two Different Things

Once, there was a woman who attended a happiness masterclass and surprised everyone by proclaiming to be happy. However, it was clear to everyone that she wasn’t as happy as she claimed to be. This was evident in the way she spoke, behaved, and her overall body language.

This is because happiness is an emotion and it isn’t a statement that we can simply say without needing to back it up. So yes, people can say almost anything, such as “I’m happy,” “I’m rich,” or “I’m the smartest person alive.” But does this actually make it so just because they said so? Not necessarily.

Ultimately, happiness needs to be felt internally and over time. If we claim to be happy, we have to be certain that this is truly how we feel most of the time.

3. Being Happy In Any Environment

Similarly, I find that people who attend happiness workshops or otherwise social events are primed to be happy, meaning that they are happy because they are in an environment that is conducive to positive thoughts. However:

  • How would they feel if they were no longer in that safe, social, and happy environment?
  • What if they were no longer primed towards happiness?
  • How did they feel during the COVID outbreak?

This is the real test I would ask people to think about to understand whether they are truly happy or simply experiencing temporary happiness (aka evasive happiness).

4. Happiness as a Conscious Competence

Lastly, according to Noel Burch’s theory of conscious competence, there are four ways people can claim proficiency in their skills and knowledge:

  1. Unconscious incompetence
  2. Conscious incompetence
  3. Unconscious competence
  4. Conscious competence

Naturally, people who claim to be happy are most likely to have the third type, unconscious competence. This means they are happy, but they don’t fully understand why they are so. They may have a good guess as to why they are happy, but if something were to happen and they lose that reason that makes them happy today, would they know how to become happy again?

I’m not trying to be mean, but the law of impermanence states that everything changes and eventually ceases to be. So if we are happy today, we can’t just assume that it will continue to be so forever, as if it was some fairy tale and “they lived happily ever after.” 

Instead, we shouldn’t hold our breath, hoping for the best, and trying to cling to our good circumstances for dear life. Instead, we should strive to develop conscious competence around the concept of happiness. This means understanding what happiness truly is, why we experience it, and how to maintain it even in the face of inevitable adversity.

In this way, conscious competence around happiness is the ultimate form of happiness that I recommend for everyone to cultivate. And this is exactly what we teach here at Optimal Happiness. We show people how to be happy today and forever, regardless of who they are, where they are from, and what their life circumstances are. Now that’s a great way to live our lives!

So, if you’re looking to gain more conscious competence in the area of happiness, you’ve come to the right place. Contact us, and we will show you what it really takes to become as happy as you’ve always wanted to be. 

Roman Russo: Author of Optimal Happiness

Roman Russo: Author of Optimal Happiness

Roman Russo wasn't always happy and struggled with his own negative emotions, anxieties, and depression, until one day he pledged to resolve this part of life, whatever it took. The journey took 6 years, but it was worth it. Today, Roman considers himself to be one of the happiest people alive, part of the 1% of the happiest elite, and he now teaches others a working and universal happiness formula to reach a similar goal. He offers his best advice on Optimal Happiness social media, newsletter, blog, and books, and teaches a complete and unconditional happiness formula in his online courses.

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“The problem is that of optimization,” states Roman Russo, author of Optimal Happiness: The Fastest & Surest Way To Reach Your Happiest Potential. There is plenty of advice on how to be happier or less sad, but no one is speaking about how to become the happiest we can be. And this is the difference that makes all the difference. By not looking at our maximum potential for happiness, we fall short of achieving it. After all, we all have hundreds of ideas on how to be happier or less sad, but most people still feel like they are not living their best lives. As such, Optimal Happiness explores the question of how to be the happiest we can be, regardless of who we are, where we are from, and what our life circumstances are. It proposes a complete and unconditional formula for happiness and explains how you too can become happy today and forever, inviting you to join the 1% happiness elite and become one of the happiest people alive.

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