People are constantly crying over:
- what hand life dealt them,
- how others wrong them, and
- how somebody else needs to fix this injustice.
This limiting thinking does not serve anyone, which is why it has to go. And here 6 major ways how we can get over yourself (you—general term):
1. Start taking responsibility in your life
A lot of people think that they are taking responsibility in their lives, but they just don’t do it enough. Sure they accept their responsibility at home or work, but what about everywhere else? What about taking responsibility for the whole universe?
Here many people will state that this is too much, finding excuses for why they have to have a limited approach. Yet, any limits we create in our lives will limit us as human beings. So if you are suffering today, remember that you should be taking more responsibility, especially in that part of life where you feel the most hurt, and this hurt will get resolved eventually (PS: for my complete post about taking responsibility, click here).
2. Stop playing a victim
Victims are like emotional loan owners who expect other people to pay up for the pain they are suffering. Whether it is physical recompense, emotional absolution, or some other form of payment, victims ask others to pay their part of guilt back first. In other words, they don’t take enough action as they don’t take enough responsibility or forward action to resolve their lives.
3. Take action
To fix this, American entrepreneur Grant Cardone recommends that we take 10 times more action than we think we need to take. He believes that the reason why anyone falls short of their goals is that they never spend enough time, money, or energy pursuing their desires. Then, they can’t get over themselves and they start blaming their lives or others for the short end of the stick they have been handed.
So 10x your life right now, by taking 10 times more action than you are doing currently and see how all of your problems will slowly but steadily get resolved and disappear.
4. Stop looking for grass greener on the other side
Comparison is the fastest way into a depression and If you want to find someone who is doing better then you will find them. Especially, no one can be good at everything, no matter how hard we try, so comparing ourselves to others is always a sure way into depression.
The better way to live is to see others as our role models and if someone has more than us, we should cheer them on for having that success, as it just means that we can do the same, with the right amount of responsibility and action.
5. Stop carrying around past hurts
Every day, I witness a war between two of my neighbors who keep trying to block each other’s car drive in revenge for something the other one did in the past. I’m not sure if either of them can remember what originally started this war, but now it does not matter and they are at each other’s throats.
Now, a mature way to resolve this would be for one of them to apologize, and for both of them to try to resolve this by finding a middle ground in their compromise. For this, one of them has to swallow their pride and forget about past hurt regardless of what it is, in order to apologize first, and hopefully, another person will get over themselves, too.
The bottom line is that their war isn’t doing either party any favors, affecting their lives, and occasionally making a scene on our street.
6. Let go of your ego. It’s not real anyway
People say “I”, “me”, or “my”, which creates a sense of ego reinforced by a sense of ownership and therefore hurt when this ownership is not respected. Yet, everything changes, including our lives, our possessions, and otherwise situation.
This means that clinging to our ego does not serve us, as eventually, it can and will get hurt. Yet, the same logic can set us free as by becoming bigger than our egos we can get over our pain and live a happier life.
Stay positive and test negative!