Would You Rather Cry in a BMW Than Smile on a Bicycle?

“I would rather cry in a BMW than smile on a bicycle,” said Ma Nuo to an unemployed suitor on a television dating show If You Are the One. She popularized this saying, summarizing something that a lot of people believe in that wealth will make them happy, or:

Wealth = Happiness

However, from my personal experience, money doesn’t lead to happiness, at least not as much as people believe it should. 

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At the age of 26, I was extremely well off financially speaking. I had a great car, a big home, and all the gadgets that people typically associate with a good and happy life. I was also very depressed, to a point that I questioned common wisdom and said something was seriously wrong with the modern model of happiness. 

I left my well-paying job, sold my possessions, and committed myself to discover what actually would make me happy. 

1000 + 1 Books on Happiness

There is another popular saying which states that there are 1000 happiness books, but from my personal experience, they aren’t all good, as I read them all trying to become happy. Honestly, most of them aren’t going to make you happy, just as a random book about money isn’t going to make you rich. 

In desperation to become happy, I read all books on happiness I could find, and when I was still unhappy, I decided to summarize all their findings. I made a meta-study of sorts of all literature of happiness. 

Finally, I found a formula for unconditional happiness that worked for me. I summarized this formula in the 1001st book on happiness, which I called Optimal Happiness

In it, I stated that if you are like my old self, tired of random happiness advice that doesn’t work, then you should read my book. I wrote it for people like my old self, stating that it worked for me and that it will work for you, no matter who you are, where you are from, and what your life circumstances are. 
Today, I’d rather smile on a bicycle rather than cry in a BMW, because I realize that owning a car isn’t the ultimate solution to happiness. Being happy is the solution to happiness, and everything else (including the BMW) is a means to this end, which is happiness.

Roman Russo

Roman Russo

Roman Russo is the visionary founder, senior happiness coach, and Chief Happiness Officer of Optimal Happiness. He has written the revolutionary Optimal Happiness: The Fastest and Surest Way to Reach Your Happiest Potential, a must-read book about achieving our happiest potential. After researching this field for over eight years, Roman is confident that anyone can become happy and invites us to undertake this transformation. Are you ready to start living the life you always meant to live?

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“The problem is that of optimization,” states Roman Russo, author of Optimal Happiness: The Fastest & Surest Way To Reach Your Happiest Potential. Most people will tell you how to be less unhappy or more happy, but no one is speaking about how to be the happiest we can be. And this is the difference that makes all the difference. By not looking at our happiest potential, we fall short of achieving it. After all, we all have hundreds of ideas on how to be happier or less sad, but most people still feel like they are not living their best lives. As such, Optimal Happiness explores the question of how to be the happiest we can be, regardless of who we are, where we are from, and what our life circumstances are. It proposes a complete formula for happiness and explains how to optimize the formula so we can be happy today and forever, breaking down what it really takes to become one of the happiest people alive (spoiler: it isn’t what most people think it is).

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