Today, I feel bad, but I don’t know why. So, I decided to meditate on this question by writing about it in my happiness journal, which is essentially a daily diary of what happened and how I feel about it all, something I recommend everyone have. The result of this entry is this blog post.
I realized that besides waking up at 6 am and immediately starting to work (which is normal for me), I’m seeking a constant and ongoing level of approval, which should come ceaselessly at me, without breaks and decrease in intensity. In fact, I often feel this way regardless of how much I have already achieved and the level of success or approval I receive. I always want more of something undefinable, and I’m never quite satisfied with my current situation.
This kind of thinking is both positive and negative. On one hand, it pushes me to do more and become even better, but it is also toxic, as it comes from some internal insecurity that states that I don’t have enough and therefore I’m not good enough, even though many people have repeatedly told me otherwise, complimenting me on my many achievements and in-depth knowledge of happiness.
I realize that the missing piece is me just assuming happiness, satisfaction, and positive vibes, as my emotions are just lying to me, and everything is actually correct, safe, and I’m alright. I’m more than alright. I’m doing amazing! Realistically, no one can give me that feeling. I shouldn’t expect anyone to give it to me, and if I want it, I just take it.
This realization immediately releases most of that superficial negative tension I feel in my body. As I become positive, optimistic, and energized to make this world whatever I want it to be.
The only thing remaining is to keep reminding myself how amazingly delusional I am, which you can also be, if you too just assume happiness, positivity, and good vibes.
An instant enlightenment indeed.
I hope you also have a great day ahead!
5 thoughts on “Assume Happiness, Positivity, and Good Vibes”
Its also important to realise that in life we will always experience setbacks. Although it is good to strive for becoming the happiest version of ourselves, it is truly impossible. I feel like the best way to conquer negativity is to use it as motivation, that way we take the negativity and turn it into something positive.
You bring up some interesting points, Munashe. Specifically, you are correct about setbacks being unavoidable. However, since they are so predictable, we can assume that they will happen and act accordingly. In this way, when things don’t go our way, we won’t be surprised, feel negative, or destroyed because we were prepared for these eventualities. This means that becoming our best version is still possible. We are not talking about “the best version possible for everyone in the universe,” but rather a personal and realistic best version, which is still great. Lastly, I never recommend using negativity as a motivator since science confirms that positivity is a much better motivator. Positive people are known to be more productive, motivated, willing to take calculated risks, and overall proactive compared to their negative counterparts. Positivity trumps negativity, which is why I am so passionate about this topic.
Great advice – and I agree – health, happiness, moods in general; they are like the tide, they come in and they go out; it’s almost like a cycle, don’t fight it, learn from it as you suggest! Linda 🌸
Love your positive mood and growth mentality, Linda. Keep it up!
Thank you! People like both of you are helping me and inspiring me to get there!