I Got Into a Fight and Lost a Friend

Losing a friend

This person was trying to teach me something, but they would not accept my advice, and when I did what they just asked me to do I was met with hostility and I was told it be wrong to do it. It’s a hard situation to be in, right? But sure, it was probably not a good relationship, at least at this moment in time.

Two Sides Of A Coin

As a happiness coach, I can’t help myself but give advice. This can be good and bad since not everyone is ready or want to receive it and because there is so much bad advice out there. Thus, we have two sides of a coin situation, whereas:

  • I was teaching them something,
  • They were teaching me something, and
  • Both parties should have been open to receiving advice.

But this was not the case, or at least I didn’t think so. In my eyes, the other party was telling me to do, but they were not willing to do the same themselves, and they were not willing to listen to me either.

As far as I can understand this behavior comes from people who are idealistic in a sense of wanting to do someone, but are not brave enough to do it themselves. In turn, they tell other people to do it, and they become hostile when others actually do it because now they have no reason not to do it themselves. It becomes a direct attack on their ego.

Furthermore, this person was not talking to me, but at me, and they were just waiting for me to stop talking to continue talking themselves (I can’t blame this behavior because until recently that was my behavior as well). As such, when I got into a fight with this person, it was not about me, but everything to do with themselves.

The fights we have with other people are fights we have with ourselves.

On the flip side, I might not be perfect (no one is, so let’s not judge each other), but I will never tell others to do something if I’m not willing to do it myself. Honestly, everything I write is personally tested and I make sure it works.

Every Fight Is an Opportunity to Learn

I believe that everyone is trying to teach us something. They may not hold the right information, but as soon as they open their mouth, they are doing it for a reason, which often is educational. Therefore, a smart listener not only hears the words, but also the intent behind the words. Why are they saying what they are saying? Is there more to the message that meets the eyes?

Life After Losing My Friend 

So yes, I lost a friend, but I’m not sad and I’m not holding anything personal since I already forgave them and moved on in my heart. We are on different passes now and it’s completely normal to lose people along the way. I wish this person all the best.

Still, I realize that losing people is normal, no matter how close these people may be. And while it can be hard to lose a friend, we should remember to make new friends, constantly. Yes, it is a lot of work to constantly work on building new connections as we need to have enough people in our lives to keep us sane and happy. And if ever we feel like we don’t have enough people, it is then that we feel alone and unhappy.

So yes, I lost a friend, but it didn’t destroy me because I have other friends who can support me, which means that a solution for a stable and happy life is a strong and abundant social pillar of happiness.

Stay happy all!

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Roman Russo: Author of Optimal Happiness

Roman Russo wasn't always happy and struggled with his own negative emotions, anxieties, and depression, until one day he pledged to resolve this part of life, whatever it took. The journey took 6 years, but it was worth it. Today, Roman considers himself to be one of the happiest people alive, part of the 1% of the happiest elite, and he now teaches others a working and universal happiness formula to reach a similar goal. He offers his best advice on Optimal Happiness social media, newsletter, blog, and books, and teaches a complete and unconditional happiness formula in his online courses.

“The problem is that of optimization,” states Roman Russo, author of Optimal Happiness: The Fastest & Surest Way To Reach Your Happiest Potential. There is plenty of advice on how to be happier or less sad, but no one is speaking about how to become the happiest we can be. And this is the difference that makes all the difference. By not looking at our maximum potential for happiness, we fall short of achieving it. After all, we all have hundreds of ideas on how to be happier or less sad, but most people still feel like they are not living their best lives. As such, Optimal Happiness explores the question of how to be the happiest we can be, regardless of who we are, where we are from, and what our life circumstances are. It proposes a complete and unconditional formula for happiness and explains how you too can become happy today and forever, inviting you to join the 1% happiness elite and become one of the happiest people alive.

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