This person was trying to teach me something, but they would not accept my advice, and when I did what they just asked me to do I was met with hostility and I was told it be wrong to do it. It’s a hard situation to be in, right? But sure, it was probably not a good relationship, at least at this moment in time.
Two Sides Of A Coin
As a happiness coach, I can’t help myself but give advice. This can be good and bad since not everyone is ready or want to receive it and because there is so much bad advice out there. Thus, we have two sides of a coin situation, whereas:
- I was teaching them something,
- They were teaching me something, and
- Both parties should have been open to receiving advice.
But this was not the case, or at least I didn’t think so. In my eyes, the other party was telling me to do, but they were not willing to do the same themselves, and they were not willing to listen to me either.
As far as I can understand this behavior comes from people who are idealistic in a sense of wanting to do someone, but are not brave enough to do it themselves. In turn, they tell other people to do it, and they become hostile when others actually do it because now they have no reason not to do it themselves. It becomes a direct attack on their ego.
Furthermore, this person was not talking to me, but at me, and they were just waiting for me to stop talking to continue talking themselves (I can’t blame this behavior because until recently that was my behavior as well). As such, when I got into a fight with this person, it was not about me, but everything to do with themselves.
The fights we have with other people are fights we have with ourselves.
On the flip side, I might not be perfect (no one is, so let’s not judge each other), but I will never tell others to do something if I’m not willing to do it myself. Honestly, everything I write is personally tested and I make sure it works.
Every Fight Is an Opportunity to Learn
I believe that everyone is trying to teach us something. They may not hold the right information, but as soon as they open their mouth, they are doing it for a reason, which often is educational. Therefore, a smart listener not only hears the words, but also the intent behind the words. Why are they saying what they are saying? Is there more to the message that meets the eyes?
Life After Losing My Friend
So yes, I lost a friend, but I’m not sad and I’m not holding anything personal since I already forgave them and moved on in my heart. We are on different passes now and it’s completely normal to lose people along the way. I wish this person all the best.
Still, I realize that losing people is normal, no matter how close these people may be. And while it can be hard to lose a friend, we should remember to make new friends, constantly. Yes, it is a lot of work to constantly work on building new connections as we need to have enough people in our lives to keep us sane and happy. And if ever we feel like we don’t have enough people, it is then that we feel alone and unhappy.
So yes, I lost a friend, but it didn’t destroy me because I have other friends who can support me, which means that a solution for a stable and happy life is a strong and abundant social pillar of happiness.
Stay happy all!