Why you are here...
If you are first time here, you are lucky. You just discovered something you were looking for. Yes, you guess it—Happiness. Even better, actually. You found Optimal Happiness.
Do You Actually Want optimal happiness?
Some people may not think they needed optimal happiness, while everyday essentially the only thing they do is look for happiness. They do it with the food the eat, with people interact, and in with things the buy. Indeed, every little action is aimed in improving how we feel, i.e., optimal happiness.
So why do you want a girlfriend or a boyfriend? Why do you want that new car? Why do you want promotion? You want all these things because they will make you feel happier, proving that happiness is our #1 goal and everything else that we do we do it for the sakes of happiness.
But We Don’t Only Want to be Happy…
Specifically, traditional psychology answers the question “how to deal with negative emotions”, while positive psychology answers the question “how to be happier”.
As Happy As We Can Be!
Why Aren’t We Still Happy?
Living in the today’s society is great. Or is it? Today, we are buying iPhones, eating at McDonald’s, wearing branded clothes, going to the cinema, drinking coffee, and doing virtually everything else all for the sake of optimal happiness.
But are we really happy? After all, today we also have a record high levels of debt, depression, obesity, antisocial behavior, and thousand other problems, which we started to consider normal.
Overall, people reporting to be unhappy more than ever before. So what does it really take to be happy?
We Don’t Know What Makes Us Happy
Today, we live better than our parents, grandparents, or any other previous generation than precedes us. We even have higher living standards than some presidents and most king of the past.
Yet, people are still unhappy. This tells me one thing: We are not authorities on our own happiness. It is ironic since happiness is what we want about everything else.
And so people think that happiness is money, power, great social relationships, expensive vacations, good food, and so on. And while these things can help us be happier, there are people who have all these things, but who are still deeply unhappy.
Oppositely, there are plenty of people who don’t have these things and they seem to be happier with their lives. Is this a paradox?
Thus, the common understanding of what it takes to be happy is wrong, or at least it is incomplete. Doing more of the same will not give us a different result, since if we could have been happy already, we would have been.
A different approach is required, and it is overdue. Luckily, the solution is available to us, and it is simple, but not easy. Indeed, all we need is to get access to correct information about what really makes people happy (simple) and apply it to our lives (not necessarily easy).
Lean optimal Happiness
Yet, happy people act differently than most other people. They are not just happier, but also better human beings overall.
They are living to their full potential, undisturbed by worldly distractions, and they are guided by a greater goal in life, which makes them more productive, interesting, and inspiring for others around.
Why You Want to be Happy
We can see happy people a mile away. We are attracted to them like bees to honey. This is because true happiness is rare and hard to fake, while negativity is abundant.
Thus, we may not know why we like happy people, but subconsciously they realize that we want to be around them.
The real reason happiness is so attractive is that it makes other people happier just by virtue of being around happiness.
The opposite is also true as unhappy people make everyone around them miserable. Certainly, you know someone like that in your life and surely it is not always the nicest person to be around.
As such, if you are happy, you can expect to have more friends, better relations, better love, and to have more positive attention in every other area of your life. Reversibly, many unhappy people find themselves with few, if any friends, typically surrounded by other people who are less than happy with their lives.
Other Benefits of Being Happy
But there is more. Happiness spills in virtually every other area of life, such as:
More Money – On average, happier people receive higher salaries, get access to higher loans, receive better deals, sale more, and generally speaking overall have a better financial success compared to their less happy counterparts;
Better Relationships – They have more and better friends, lovers, partners, they are treated better by strangers, who cheat them less, and give them an extra positive treatment, just because they are happier;
Better Health – They experience a longer and healthier life, up to 10 years. This is because positive emotions rely on chemicals such as dopamine, oxytocin, serotonin, and endorphins, which strengthen the immune system and help to push people beyond the normal state of pain, which is especially vital in exercising and working our; and
More Productivity – Happy people are more productive because they are working on the goals that are really important to them, which in turn makes them motivated to work on these goals, creating a virtuous cycle of productivity;
And much more! – Indeed, virtually every aspect of life is improved by the mere fact that we are happy. In turn, the degree we enjoy all these benefits is a degree that we are happy. So how do we become Optimally Happy?
The answer to this question lies in the rest of our Optimal Happiness blog and our book!
Our Happiness Mission
We believe that we can make a world a better place for everyone to live in, and we want to do so by making this world 5% happier. To achieve this impossibly sounding goal, the only thing we really need to do is to change how people think. Indeed, we can’t solve world hunger, stop wars, resolve the world’s overpopulation problem, or give everyone an iPhone.
We simply don’t have enough money, power, and influence to do so. However, we don’t really need these resources to achieve this goal. Happiness is not materialistic, but is it based on correct information.
As such, our mission is to:
- Make a world a Happier place for everyone to live in by overall 5%
- Share the best information possible on a topic of happiness
- Help people to reach their utmost potential in terms of happiness
- Help people minimize or even eliminate their negative emotions
Problem With Modern Happiness Advice
The problem with current general advice about happiness is that it is all over the place, and often the books are written by less than the happiest people alive. I know I even read some books by New York Bestselling pessimists.
Guess what I’ve learned from these books? The problem with other happiness books is that there are all different. Every book tells me something new. There is no theme and no end to the different advice I read. So should I do yoga or lead a happiness journal?
Today, I realize that all this confusion is caused by the complexity of the topic, which is why virtually no one tried to understand the central theme of happiness on a macro level. Sorry, let me paraphrase.
There are plenty of people who tried to understand happiness and how we can become the happiest versions of ourselves, but most people stopped before the finish line for one reason or another.
For example, if you study scientific literature, you will probably start with basics and then progress into the more advanced stuff. The problem with this approach is that by the time you are done studying, your brain will be so busy with information, it becomes virtually impossible to think outside the box.
Furthermore, reading purely scientific literature left me thinking, “what the hell are they saying?” half of the time. It was just too complicated to read or I didn’t know how I could apply their insights in my life.
The other, non-scientific writers, for the most part, listed their best advice they knew and called it a day. Yet, no one truly said, “You know what, despite all this information, the problem persists. Why is that?”
Our Contribution to Happiness
I don’t think I’m special. If I ever sound like bragging, I’m not. As you saw before, I came from modest beginnings. The only reason I stood out was that I never stop banging my head against a wall before I was satisfied with the answer.
My question was how to become the happiest version I can become. The question asked by classical psychology was: how to deal with negative emotions?, while positive psychology asked: how to be happy? I hope you can see that my question was one step deeper than other questions, and it was one of optimization, which is why I called this website and my book Optimal Happiness.
And what can I say that I didn’t already say in my book? Sure, there is a ton of things to say, since there is a ton of books that speak about this subject. However, most books go in circles, never really addressing the core issue.
And this is why I prefer my book. It states the fastest way to go from point A to B, from any state of emotional well-being you may find yourself right now (A) to a state of optimal happiness (B).